Bride and groom consent

In Paul Turner's Blog by Paul Turner

Q:  I have a question on the bride and groom ‘s consent. It seems that all of the American priests who celebrate weddings ‘help’ the bride and groom make their consent by reciting the words and then having the couple repeat them. In Vietnam, the priest let them declare their consent themselves. The priest usually asks them to memorize the words of consent. They also prepare a card for those couples who can’t memorize. Your thoughts please! Thanks


A:  I like the way they do it in Vietnam. The ritual gives several ways for them to say their consent, but the options do not include repeating it after the priest or deacon. I ask our secretary to prepare a card for each wedding so that the couple can read their consent to each other.